Break ups..

A couple of weeks ago, my friend, X broke up with her boyfriend.
Reason: long distance relationship.

She sobbed and asked me for advice.
What more can I say than to her? Do I tell her to forget bout him? and that there are still so many trees in the jungle?
Its just not easy as it seemed.

Many a time, we blame the guy for ruining the relationship. We blame him for not being able to withstand a long distance relationship.. or perhaps for finding someone elsewhere. I used to have a long distance relationship. Everything went smoothly until the distance slowly drift us apart. without me or him realising it.. until one day.. both of us decided to break up... for good.

We have choices that we can make in live.
And it goes two ways: the positive or the negative.

You can scold the guy and blame him for all you want. blame him that the relationship ends. blame him that he was flirting with others. blame him that he did not call. blame him for all the times you had to spend alone because he did not take a long journey to meet you over the weekends. or simply blaming him or going out with his friends till late at night while you were not around.

OR:

Leave him alone. If you love him, set him free. You know that if its meant to be its meant to be. If he comes back to you, he belongs to you. If he doesnt, set him free and set yourself free. The world has so much to explore, not only in terms of relationship, but others.. friends, family, adventure, travelling, religion, books, music, songs, party... Relationship is not everything. No matter what happens, you have to learn to love yourself. because if you dont, you cant learn to love others. As simple as that. Stop pondering over the past and move on. Because each stab in the heart that you overcome will make you a stronger person for tomorrow.

So my dear friend, if you are reading this... i know how hard it is to go thru break up. Cause i gone through that.. baby, you've gotta move on. Stay happy, hang out with your friends and keep busy. You;ve gotta stand up again on your own and regained the courage to overcome this pain. i know you can do it. and you know you have me..
Being single is more fun than you think it is! so dun cry... wipe that tears away.. and come to me with a smile.. its time for more more and more fun! let's party babe!! :)

p/s: nienie, hope that you are happy and doing well over there. :) i miss that black long sleeves uniform of yours haha... bubye!